Tips and Insights

Time to Talk

It takes courage to talk about what’s troubling us, what keeps us awake during the night and feeling like we’re living on the edge throughout the day. We can’t make sense of what’s happening in our world, let alone feel that we could talk to anyone and that they would understand. We’re fearful that if we do talk, the negative thoughts and feelings, the demons we have inside our minds will grow even bigger, darker and become more powerful than ever. There’s no room for logical, rational thinking, because our mind is constantly filled with worry, dread, feeling totally out of control.

Does this sound familiar? It does to me, because this was my life. For so long I felt overwhelmed, unable to function, in deep depression. People talk about seeing the light at the end of the tunnel, for me there was no tunnel, let alone any light.

I’m sharing this with you because if my story, this brief snapshot of a time in my life resonates with you, I want to give you hope, hope that it is possible to come back from the precipice, to see light, where before, there was only darkness. I know from experience, it’s so hard to take that first, courageous step, particularly when you are devoid of any logical, rational thinking. I held back from speaking to family or friends, because I didn’t want to burden them with the heavy load I was carrying. To me, it felt easier to suffer in silence, even if it meant there was no happy future and at times it felt like there was no future at all.

Believe me when I say, taking that first step to talk to someone, was the best decision I have and will ever make in my life. I sought the professional help of a counsellor within a safe, confidential, non-judgemental environment and with the empathy and purposeful questions being asked by the counsellor and the understanding she showed, I started to feel that I could share my inner thoughts, my demons, what I was thinking and feeling deep within me. The more I opened up, the more I spoke about my innermost thoughts and feelings, it felt like I was turning a tap on and starting the process of draining my mind of these dark thoughts and allowing in, at first just the smallest ray of light which grew brighter and brighter as I started to make sense of my thoughts. I won’t pretend this was an easy fix, it wasn’t, however, it was the first step on a long journey of recovery, a journey from ‘battling to survive to a happy, fulfilling life, where today, I thrive.’ And, through my business, I now help people, who are struggling, as I once was, helping them to become more resilient, more empowered, more in control of their lives, moving towards a lighter, brighter future.  

It may feel like you’re alone, it may feel like there’s no way through this, it may feel like ‘no one will understand,’ it may feel like there’s no hope, believe me, there is always hope, you just need to take that first step. If, like me, you don’t feel you can, or want to talk to family or friends, there are many ‘talking therapies’ out there, so many resources you could call upon, that can help you to overcome your challenges and help you to move forward to a brighter, more hopeful future. The best advice I could give to anyone who is struggling with their mental health, is please, take that first step and don’t be afraid to talk. It could change your life in ways beyond belief, as it did mine … ‘Please, TALK to someone, TODAY’

Your GP is always a good starting point to get help, here are a just few of the many resources available, that will help you start on your journey of recovery;

  • Samaritans. Telephone: 116 123
  • Mind Infoline. Telephone: 0300 123 3393
  • Rethink Mental Illness Advice Line. Telephone: 0300 5000 927
  • Saneline. Telephone: 0300 304 7000